Tuesday, August 21, 2012

Courage. Unity. Work. (My first visit to Kérou)

(The traffic circle in the center or Kérou)

Monday, 6 August 2012


Okay. I am going to start this entry with a promise: never again will I complain about public transport in the US. Ever. Even the economy class of airplanes is luxury compared to what I have endured for the past two days. Today was the worst; I spent 7 hours going down a terrible bumpy dirt road, crammed into a 15-passenger van with about 20 adults, plus some kids. One of which was apparently hypo-glyceamic, and nearly died mid-transit.

At least I didn’t feel as sick as I did yesterday. I had woken up feel a little sick to my stomach, and then embarked on a voyage across half of Benin. I was in the 2nd row of a van, which didn’t have a high back for me to sleep on, so I felt miserable. At our first stop, I asked the person sitting in the passenger seat if I could switch. For good measure, I walked over to the side of the road, and vomited profusely so he could see I wasn’t faking being sick just to get a good seat. I spent the rest of the trip all curled up, trying to sleep as much as possible, and cursing my mother for passing on this motion-sickness-gene. Although to be fair, in retrospect my feeling ill may have had more to do with my initial stomach-bug or whatever, since today I went along feeling much better, and the bracelets I have against motion-sickness tend to work well, even on these African roads. So sorry Mom, for unwarrantedly cursing you.  :)

On the other hand, I need to point out that I (righteously so) hate men and their ability to pee anywhere. Technically, it’s acceptable here, for the most part, for women to pee-squat, as long as they don’t expose their butt. It’s possible in the common wrap-skirt, but definitely a learned art. And it’s far less common than men who just whip it out whenever they feel like it. (Oh, excuse me for exposing my knees and a little thigh when I’m trying to pedal around on my bike and save the world, because knees are so scandalous, but it’s no problem if you just whip out your penis on the side of the road. Grrrrrrrrrrrr… Ahh, don’t even get me started on that…) On one of our taxi rides, the driver just stops, gets out, and pees. (Oh don’t mind us, the paying customers that you’ve crammed in your crummy van. We’re just fine crammed back here while you go and relieve yourself. It’s not like we would benefit from getting out as well. Or benefit from you not stopping, so we could arrive at our destinations quicker and relieve ourselves.) Bastards.

Anyway, I am currently staying at my “homologue’s” house. That is what the Peace Corps calls the person who requested a volunteer, and who is basically my liaison to the community, my supervisor (kind of), etc. It’s weird to be living at my boss’s house, I hope I don’t make any cultural mistakes, because I don’t want that to be an issue when I am working with him later on. His name is Hubert, and he seems really awesome. He’s very well-educated, and has spent time living in Togo, as well as other parts of Benin. Now he has returned to his birth-place of Kérou (technically, he’s living about a km outside of the town). He lives next door to a lot of his family, his mom, as well as many sisters, bothers, nieces and nephews, and so on. He has his own family, a wife and 6 kids (two girls and four boys), ranging from young teens (I’m guessing) to a baby. He is really great with his kids, and his youngest son, the baby (toddler? Not quite walking, but standing with support? What age is that?) hates being separated from him. Additionally, he has a cat named Ouani (pronounced Won-ie), that is exceedingly loyal to him, for a cat. And according to a current volunteer, who lives in a town 10 km away, he knows and is known by pretty much everyone in town.

His house doesn’t have electricity or running water. Which makes showering interesting. I got what was maybe a 3-gallon bucket, and had to wash my entire body and my hair with that. You should try it some time. Anyway, I was initially confused as to why someone who is clearly well-off (he does work for the government, which especially in Africa is a big deal, money-wise) and a very sociable person. Why would he choose to live out here, without the convenience of electricity, and away from the center of town? But then he showed me to his fields, where he grows many things, like soy, gumbo (like okra?), moringa, cabbage, tomatoes, a lot of corn, plus other plants that I don’t know in French, so I’m not sure what they are. Oh yeah, and that’s all by hand. He is so passionate about his gardens and about strengthening gardening in the community. I feel like I will learn a lot from him over the next two years.

(Hubert's fields)

I’m still not thrilled about being such a long trip from everything, and I am certainly worried about the lack of amenities at Hubert’s house (although I will have electricity at mine). But as I sat down to dinner with Hubert, I realized that this is where I want to be. I think I am more afraid of the unknown, i.e. the rural life, and the rural life of Africa at that. Yes, I grew up in a rural area. But that was as a kid, and that’s different. I really haven’t figured out to have fun there. And I have sworn up and down that I would never live in my hometown for good. But I remember thinking before we got our assignments that if I only lived in the South of Benin, I would never venture to the North. I quickly dismissed this thought, convinced I needed a metropolis in the populated South. I will admit, though, that the scenery I did see through my nausea and cramped condition was absolutely gorgeous. So perhaps it is good that I have been forced to travel all this way to the middle of the countryside of Benin, forced to see this open, sprawling land, filled with very nice people.

Tuesday, 7 August 2012


My first full day in Kérou. I started off being led around to meet Hubert’s family that lives by him. It was kind of awkward, because I wasn’t sure what to do. Also, everyone was speaking Bariba, which is the local language here.

The greetings basically went like this: “Anna _______?” (“anna” means how, so they are asking how was your sleep, or your waking up, etc, etc).

Then the responses is “A laafia!”
Then another question, “Anna _______?”
“A laafia”,
Then yet another question, “Anna _______?”
“A laafia!”, then
“Ooo”
“Ooo”
“Ooo”
“Ooo”
“Mmm”
“Mmm”

Those last sounds are all different tones, but I just don’t get it. “Ooo” apparently means “yes” but I don’t understand why repeating it is necessary.

Anyway, so that was the morning. Then we went into town and had breakfast at this little stand. I got an egg sandwich and coffee, which is par for the course of my breakfasts in Benin. Thank you for giving me tons of cholesterol. After that, we went to the mayors office, where I met a lot of the staff there. The mayor is currently out of town, so I didn’t get to meet her. We did meet the Secretary-General, who invited us for drinks later that night. Next, we went to the gendarmerie (police station). Hubert introduced me to the people that work there, and I got the business card of one of the security officers, so I can call if there is a problem. Now they also know to look out for me over the next two years. Finally we went to Hubert’s office. Technically he works for the Mayor, but his office is right in the center of town (the mayor’s office is a half mile north of the center). At his office, there is also a room where seeds, etc are sold for the women’s gardening groups in the commune (county).

In the morning, we first met with some women leaders from the neighboring villages. We organized times from me to visit these various groups. One of the things I am worried about in my assignment is that during the two days when everyone’s homologues were in Porto Novo and the Peace Corps had some training sessions, Hubert stood up and objected to the Peace Corp’s ban on volunteers driving motos, or any motor-vehicle. He stood up and said, “But my volunteer needs to work with 27 women’s gardening groups in the country! How can she get to all of them if she can’t drive!” The Peace Corp’s response was that I have a bike. Hubert doesn’t think this is sufficient, so I am worried that I will have to bike myself to death. And it’s not exactly flat (although mostly it is. Only a few hills). Oh yeah, and this is the Sahel, where in March/April, it can get up to 120 degrees. What have I gotten myself into??? Yikes!

Today was a market day (this happens every 4 days), so Hubert took me to see it. I am happy because I can get pretty much everything I need there. I was worried I might be lacking certain items and have to go into a bigger town to get them, but it looks like, for the most part, I am good. They have everything I would want for my house (except a mattress), kitchen supplies, fabric for clothes, various foods, and so on. They only thing that will be annoying will be actually having to go shopping every 4 days, since my veggies won’t keep long without a fridge. Ahh, I’m so used to going to the grocery store every two or three weeks! I even remember subsisting on beans and rice for weeks at a time when I was too busy this past year to go to the supermarket, which was only 2 blocks away. On the other hand, from what I’ve heard about Peace Corps, and what I know about African culture, I really doubt I will have inescapable deadlines and tons of work (partnered with even more procrastination, lets be honest) that keep me from buying my sustenance for the week.

We went back to Hubert’s for lunch and a nap, then we cam back into town. Hubert showed me around to the more permanent shops, so I could see what was available there as well. This is where I will buy things like staple foods (rice) as well as packaged foods (soft drinks), plus pharmaceutical products, and home improvement items. Which speaking of, we also stopped by a place that might be my house. (There is some sort of debate over whether this will belong to me or the other new volunteer, M.) It shares a courtyard with other families, which the Peace Corps likes because then there are other people to look out for you. It has electricity, and one of the current tenants even has satellite TV. There is no running water, and only a very, very dirty well in the courtyard, which means water is a good distance away. There is a private shower area in the back of the house. Then our the front door, and around to the side is a private latrine. Hubert called it a “WC” and I resisted the urge to bitterly inform him that in order for something to pass for a “Water Closet”, there has to be actual (running) water involved. It shouldn’t be that bad, actually. People tend to use the shower-areas for peeing, and the latrines only for that other thing. I just hope I don’t have a sickness that requires frequent visits to the latrine, especially since this would be observed by all the other families living in the compound. Regardless, I am really excited to move ino my own place. Weirdly, spending 2 years in Kérou will be the longest I’ve lived somewhere consecutively since I started college in 2006. Since then, I lived a lot in Charleston, obviously, but this was broken up by semesters abroad. Then I spent a year at home with my mom, then 9 months in Oklahoma doing my masters program, and now I’m here. It’s almost like settling down. Almost.

Anyway, after all that, I met with some local artisans. Some of them are part of the “Ben Club”, a Village Savings and Loan Association started by a former volunteer (Ben). Others are just part of professional organizations in Kérou. They are all very excited to work with me, and I hope I just don’t disappoint. It is really good to have a structure here, especially because it helps me identify people who are really interested in making changes and progressing in their businesses, etc. They will help show me around the next week as well.

After meeting with them, I went to meet the queen. According to Hubert, she is Bariba and Muslim, and her main duty is giving names to newborn babies. She may have other responsibilities, but Hubert doesn’t really know. A current volunteer in Kérou, A., explained that historically, only the Bariba, Yoruba, and Fon ethnic groups had kings and queens, but no other Beninese ethnic group did. Then the government, in their infinite wisdom, decided to support traditional leaders, and passed a law giving money to kings and queens. Then suddenly, there were kings and queens everywhere.

On the way back to Hubert’s house, we actually went to the cotton fields of the mayor. Hubert explained that cotton is a crop which requires a lot of work and a lot of production in order to be profitable. Then he asked me if we had cotton in the U.S. I responded, “Well, actually, that’s why we took a lot of slaves from Benin: to work in the cotton fields.” Then there was just an awkward silence.

On a somewhat related note, there is something very interesting that I wanted to mention. I noticed from one of my first days that a lot of people had scars on their faces. Straight lines, sometimes one or two on each cheek. I asked my French teacher about it, and he said this was a practice that actually originated during the slave trade. People with scars, especially on their faces, would actually fetch less money for white slave traders. As a protective measure, therefore, many groups would cut slits on a child’s face when he or she was born. This practice has continued today as a kind of status-marker. As if to say, “Look at how un-slave-worthy my child is; we are of such a high class.” Other times these scars might actually be for a spiritual kind of protection, often if a child has been preceded by siblings that have died at birth or a young age. So anyway, that is just something that I found culturally interesting, and thought I should mention. It may be a disappearing process, for example Hubert’s wife has the scars, but none of the children do. That may also be due to the education level of the parents, I’m not sure.

Back to my daily adventures: as we were passing through the fields, two Peul on a motorcycle almost hit Hubert, so he started complaining about the Peul. I had heard that a lot of the Bariba (the dominant ethnic group here) aren’t huge fans of the Peul, but I can’t help but like them. For me they are kind of a link to my first African home, Senegal. The Peul (also called Fulbe) are originally from there. In fact, a good portion of my bachelor’s thesis was about Fulbe kingdoms in pre-colonial Senegal. The Peul are very good at war, and were able to conquer territory easily. However, they are a group of cattle herders, which made their kingdoms unsustainable. It is hard to rule a people that constantly move about and across borders. They have since spread out across Mali, Burkina Faso, into Benin, etc. Here, they are all so tall (one volunteer insists that this is related to their propensity, as cattle-herders, for drinking real cow’s milk), dark, and beautiful. They where this royal blue color, that is absolutely stunning, often infused with something red, possibly in the embroidery, etc. I have also seen some with what looks like henna tattoos, but in square shapes, covering their faces. I never saw something like this in Senegal, so I wonder if I just never ventured far enough away from Dakar, or if this was something that was adopted as they spread across the continent.

Okay, this time, for real back to my daily adventures (I get sidetracked so easily!), after the cotton fields, we went back and had dinner at Hubert’s. Then A. and I and Hubert went to meet M. at this buvette (what you would call a bar) with the Secretary General. It was a weird meeting, with mixtures of French, Bariba, and English conversations. And plenty of awkward silences, although the Beninese didn’t seem quite as bothered by those as the Americans. On the motorcycle ride back, I looked up into the night sky, which was absolutely stunning. I could see more stars even then I could see in places like Montana. (In other news, Kérou also gives Montana a run for its money in claiming to have the biggest skies). It was just absolutely gorgeous. I wish I had a constellation-tablet-thing (what are those called?) I technically have one at home, but it is for the wrong latitude (the stars you can see change based on where you are on earth). So if someone wants to send me the one for my latitude, that would be great, thanks.

Thursday, 9 August 2012


Yesterday I didn’t do too much. Hubert left in the morning, to ride his moto to Nattintangou to deliver a report. (Kérou hasn’t caught up on this uber-new concept called e-mail.) But when he left he was wearing a full ski-jacket. I asked him why he was wearing it, and he said “To guard against the rain.” I said, “No, that is for snow!!!” But here, even the slightest cold merits jackets and hats, so I guess a motorcycle ride in the slightly cool rain would merit a huge, bulky, winter jacket.

So one of his kids (probably 12 years old or less) drove me into town (and yet the Peace Corps thinks its too unsafe for me to drive myself…) I got breakfast, then went with M. to the health center. She gave me a tour and then we interviewed one of the nurses, as the Peace Corps has required. He made an interesting comment during this interview, which was to the effect of, “You are sending robots to Mars, and yet you can’t get a cure for AIDS to Africa.” He seemed to be under the impression that the U.S. actually has a cure for AIDS, we’re just not sharing. We tried to explain that it’s not exactly a cure; it’s just a medicine that keeps HIV from becoming AIDS. And really, it’s only available to people with money or good insurance. But seriously, why haven’t we cured AIDS yet? Actually, Benin has a lower rate of AIDS then the US. It tends to be more central, eastern, and southern African countries that have the bigger AIDS problems. I am glad for the efforts being made to educate people about this disease, but we still have a long way to go.

After leaving this conversation, M. and I went to lunch, then back to her house for a “repose”. We finally met up with A., the current volunteer here, and went to a buvette. There we discussed the difficulties of Kérou, and then attempted to solve the world’s problems one beer at time. Finally I returned to Hubert’s house, where I got to watch this amazingly beautiful lightening storm roll in. I commented that I thought it was awesome, and one of his kids was like, “Oh, do you not have these in the US?” I responded that we do have lightening storms, I just still think they’re beautiful.

Then today, a friend of Hubert, picked me up to take me to Fétékou, a village about 10km east of Kérou. There is a woman’s gardening group there that had requested a volunteer. But they got stuck with sharing me with the rest of this county. They told me about the work they are doing there, which is pretty impressive. They have a huge garden, and produce tons of veggies every year. Which they have to water entirely with watering cans, so one of their “needs” is a watering/irrigation system. I talked to them about their other needs and wants. Then they asked me about my own experience, so I answered truthfully that I know nothing about gardening, but a little about business. When I first got this assignment, I thought I might have a problem working with the gardening groups, since I know nothing about agriculture and gardening. But today I realized that—at least this group in particular—has the gardening part under control. That’s just what they do. What they want is someone to help them get better equipment as well as guide them in saving their group money, make good investment purchases, etc.

When they were talking to me about this, I found myself really missing my father. Wouldn’t he be the absolutely perfect person for me to call up and say, “So, I’m working with this women’s garden group that wants to get better at saving the money they make. Any suggestions?” But although I would, in fact, have the ability to call someone halfway around the world, there is still no phone that reaches a mere 6 feet under the ground.

I do kind of feel like a fraud when people ask me, “so what is your actual business experience?” and my response is, “Well my parents own(ed) an accounting business.” (What’s the proper tense for my parents owned and my mom still owns?) While an interviewer in the States would laugh you out of the room, I think here it makes sense. Children grow up working with and for their parents. Moms carry their babies all day on their backs, occasionally bringing them around front to breastfeed. If a parent has their own business, the kids always help out—with no pay, mind you. Thus the children learn the trade. And honestly, that has been somewhat my experience. When I was young, I started putting labels on envelopes to mail, and got paid about 50¢ per sheet, or something like that. I grew up doing a lot of menial tasks around the office, and later progressed to things like data entry for tax returns. But more importantly, I got to hear my parents talk about their business and their clients’ businesses. My parents constantly debated—in our house and on our car rides across the country—about their efficiency, structure, employees, and so on. They might talk about the clients who were doing well or doing great things, as well as the clients that refused to listen to my dad’s advice, usually to their downfall. The years after my dad’s passing, my mom has often looked to me to share in council. We debated different things that she should do. We worked on rewording the vision of the firm, hammering out a “Policy and Procedures” manual, and so on. While the last thing may not help these women’s garden groups, my point is that I hope my second-hand experience at running a business will help me in my work here. I do wish I had paid a little more attention to my dad’s commentary on the business and agricultural world when he was around. But I guess the knowledge he already managed to pass on will have to suffice.

Anyway, after this meeting with the women, they took me to eat at the president’s house. I swear, these Beninese are trying to fatten me up. My host family in Porto Novo gives me entirely too much food, no matter how much I leave on my plate at the end of every meal. My boss’s family here gave me two meals when I came home in the evening, because I hadn’t come home from lunch—even though I explained to them that I had eaten in town. This group feeds me a “second breakfast”, then forces me to accept gifts of eggs, meat, beignets (French doughnuts), and peanuts. They also gave me cash, saying that they could’t find more eggs, so this was for me to buy some eggs when I got back to Kérou. I felt terrible accepting it, but I decided I’ll just insist on buying something next time I’m there, so at least the money goes back into the community. Yeah, I’ll let you know if that actually works out.

(Me with the women in Fétékou)

As I was leaving, I saw a little monkey tied to a tree. I stopped and said, “O! Un singe!” The people then asked me if I wanted it. I think my head exploded. I was thinking, “Are you joking? OF COURSE I WANT A MONKEY!!!!!! Can I? Can you find me a baby??” I’ve always dreamed of having a tiny monkey that can just sit on my shoulder all day as I walk around. And be like Abu from Aladdin, or like Curious George (because they are just like real monkeys…). I think if I could get a monkey, I would consider my life complete.

I told Hubert about my desire to have a monkey. He then informed me that he had actually had a monkey some years ago, named Jacabo. (reminds of Count of Monte Cristo, DANIELLE.) This was a monkey he got when it was an infant. He never tied it up, the monkey just knew not to leave. And it was very smart. When we got back home, Hubert actually pulled out a picture of him with his monkey. How awesome is that!!!

I really like Hubert. He is clearly a good person. He has a family that adores him, even a cat that is loyal to him. Everyone around town seems to know and love him as well. I think he is trying to do too much (and sometimes forgets things) and perhaps has too lofty of ideas. But I am so excited to work with him, because he seems like such a passionate person who can help keep me inspired over the next two years.

Friday, 10 August 2012


Today I went to a meeting the “Ben Club.” One challenge I’ve noticed is that since I don’t speak Bariba, everything must be translated for me. I don’t regret my decision to stick with French; even the French translations test my language limits. So I am glad to at least be mostly confident in French rather than just semi-confident in French and know a little of Bariba. Though hopefully I will come to know a little of Bariba during my time here. My biggest challenge with that, however, is my own reliance on writing. Even in French, a new word, or vaguely familiar word makes more sense if I can picture it written out. If I don’t know how to write it, I can’t even contemplate figuring out what it means. (What kind of learner does this make me?) Most people don’t write Bariba—even though it’s possible—because most of the people in Kérou who exclusively speak Bariba (and even those who might know more languages) are illiterate. So I can’t ask someone how to spell a new word so that I might remember it better—they might not know how. This was perhaps the reason that learning Arabic was such a challenge for me, because there was a whole new alphabet. Even learning new vocabulary was difficult because I had to sound out each word like a kindergartener learning to read. At least Bariba—when it’s written—uses the romantic alphabet, for the most part. And it’s pretty phonetic (unlike French which has the stupidest pronunciation rules ever, and English which has no rules, only exceptions). So I guess I can just make up my own spelling for new words as I hear them, since it’s not like I’ll actually have to write in Bariba, nor will anyone be correcting my spelling. Although this might bother my OCD-self, since it won’t technically be correct.

Anyway, in the meeting we talked about their current set-up, as well as their needs and wants. Luckily, they have worked with volunteers so they know what to expect. Although I do have a lot to live up to. After the meeting, I went on a tour to visit the different work places of the members. One seamster said to me, “It is Ben that got me these new sewing machines. [he had new machines for embroidery, buttons, etc] What are you going to get for me?”

After the tour of the various workspaces, I went to lunch with the president of the “Ben Club.” During which he had a beer. This is the second time in two days that I have been offered a drink by lunch. Yesterday it was a shot of moonshine. The Peace Corps may or may not (hint: it’s the former) strictly forbid drinking during the workday, even on the 2.5-hour lunch break. And honestly, I’ve never really had the inclination to drink during the day (unless it was at the beach or tailgating). You cease to be productive, and just want to sleep. I just don’t see the point of having a beer at lunch. Firstly, beer is gross. Secondly, it is just adding calories and spending money. And lastly, the calories and wasted money are pointless, since one beer accomplishes nothing. Except perhaps to make you tired and/or have to pee.

But anyway, I did have an interesting conversation with the president of the association, Edoward. He is a solder, and seems really smart. He speaks at least 4 languages, and has a successful enterprise, with multiple apprentices. We talked about things from micro-finance to computer research. However, he mentioned that he can’t read or write (though he does know numbers & math). That would make learning how to use a computer even more difficult. This is something to think about . I know computers and the Internet can be such a great research, but can people in the village actually use them? In all of Kérou, there are only computers at the mayor’s office, the health center, one small cyber-café (at the “Maison des Jeunes” or “House of Young-People”—kind of like a YMCA, without swimming classes), and perhaps a few personal computers (the majority probably belonging to any ex-pats or volunteers living here). I know it’s not really my assignment, but I really would love to snow everyone the wonderful world of the internet, but how beneficial would that be? I mean Kérou did only get electricity 5 years ago; it might need some more time before the internet is embraced.

An interesting note about technology: I’ve seen that across Africa, most people missed the whole “home phone” concept. Unlike the States; where at one point everyone had a phone in their house (my mom recalls it being a big deal when her house got a second phone jack, so she and her siblings could have private conversations if they took the phone back to into the bedroom). That never really existed in Africa, with the exception of some elites. However, at the advent of cell phones, Africans have jumped whole-heartedly into this. In Cameroon, some of the locals boasted that phone service in rural areas was better than service in rural America (and my house in the woods in the States proves this), because of this dependence on cell phones and lack of landlines. In Senegal, thousands of young men sold phone credit on the streets of Dakar. In both Cameroon and Benin, most people have multiple cell phones (my host cousin has 4) because they need one for each network. Some networks work better in different areas, plus in-network calling is a lot cheaper. In the same vein, I foresee a similar evolution with the Internet. In the States, everyone (when I say “everyone” or speak in generalities—in both America and Africa—I mean the majority of people in the middle and upper classes, and perhaps some of the high-lower classes. This obviously does not apply to the poorest citizens) has wi-fi in their houses. Internet-USB-Keys are a luxury, usually for business people who travel a lot for work (although they may soon be replaced by mobile phone “hotspots”). But other than cyber-cafés and the occasional offices/organizations, wi-fi is unheard of in Benin. In Senegal wi-fi was more common, but then again, I never really strayed outside of the capital, which is considered the “Paris of West Africa.” And the country is more developed overall. Therefore, my prediction is that wi-fi will never really take route in Africa, and one day everyone will just have Internet Keys. And the US will remain more attached to their wi-fi, just like we are still attached to our home phones, while Africans have abandoned that concept entirely, having never embraced it. I also think this might happen with money transfers. It impossible here to ever use a debit or credit card, except perhaps at a very white-person hotel in the capital, and to withdraw money at banks, but again, only in major towns. However, in Kenya, you can actually pay people with your cell-phone, just as easy as sending a text, or something like that. And it’s actually supposed to be quite secure. I wonder if that will actually spread across the continent. I hope so. I hate carrying all this cash around. Not that it will spread to Benin before I leave, but it will be interesting to watch the evolution over the next generation or so.

Ah, after that last deviation, all I have to mention for today is that I was supposed to go to a meeting of carpenters in the afternoon. In fact one, a member of the “Ben Club” invited me specifically for that evening. But I arrived there, and no one was there. So Edoward went to ask someone about it. He returned with the guy who had originally invited me, who explained, “Oh, there is a marriage celebration, so this was canceled.” I just sat there and stared at him like, “WTF!? YOU told me, not 5 hours ago, that this was happening!” But all I said was, “Okay, no big deal.” CCA

Sunday, 12 August 2012


Yesterday I went to some meetings of various professional organizations in Kérou, specifically solders, seamsters/resses, and hair-dressers. There are more organizations, but those were the only ones meeting at that time. It was interesting to look at their varying structures. They all tend to collect dues. Some impose fines for lateness (oh, what a novel idea for Africa!). One group saves this money to give if a member is sick or injured (kind of like a form of disability insurance). Another group uses the dues to distribute the money between two members a week as a loan to invest in their business. I talked with them about their needs and wants. One thing ever group mentioned wanting was to partner with an external organization, such as a professional counterpart in the western world. I think this is a very cool and interesting concept, but I think actually making it happen might be difficult, especially because of the language barrier. I have no contact to French-speaking professional organizations, etc. I will have to look into that. A more feasible (but vastly more expensive) need of every group was a place of their own to meet. Currently, each group meets at this little gazebo, which is technically on the land of the house of the government-utility-manager. And it’s a crummy building, where you can only sit on half of it in the morning, due to the heat from the rising sun. So helping to build a community-professional center could be one of my projects. I am really glad that so many of these profession groups already exist. It means that I have somewhere to start, rather than waiting around to figure out things that need to be done, like most PC volunteers spend their first year. I already have so many groups that know what they want/need, I just need to figure out how to best help them help themselves!

Hubert is also a great source of ideas. One huge one he shared with me was his idea to build a permanent market for vegetables and fruits. This would mean that people could find fruits and veggies EVERY day, rather than every four days, on market day. Also, it would set up a system so that gardeners wouldn’t have to take the whole day to come into town, and sit and sell their products. They would just bring them in, and leave them with someone else to sell. Then they could return to their fields, come back a few days later to collect their money and bring more crops.

I think this would be such a positive project. It fits very nicely with the Peace Corp’s new focus on food security. And it would be so beneficial to the community for nutritional improvement, as well as economic development. In contrast to the earlier project I mentioned, this would be beneficial to everyone in Kérou, not just the artisans. The women can produce more crops, there are new jobs of selling the crops, more people buying them, ore people eating healthy, and so on. The only problem is that any such fantastic project loses all benefit if the community never actually uses it. At this point, it seems to be only the brainchild of Hubert, with the formal proposal written by an outside professional grant/proposal writer. In order to move forward, I think it will be extremely important to get other people involved, such as the women from the garden groups in Kérou and the surrounding villages. I don’t doubt Hubert’s ability to get them all excited about it, and I hope I might persuade women to be on board with this as well. I also wonder if we might be able to work out some sort of transportation to get these vegetables, so the women don’t have to walk far, etc. I guess I will just work out all of these things as I go. The good news is that I have a month of training coming up where I can think about and discuss these ideas to determine possibilities and feasibilities.

After the meetings with the professional groups, I went to have lunch with one of the hairdressers. Then we went back to her shop. The plan was to rest there for a little bit, then go around and to visit the shops of seamstresses and hairdressers. However, it started raining. And by that I mean a rain that gave “torrential downpour” a whole new meaning. It rained with a vengeance for a solid hour, and then there was a very heavy and steady rain for another two. There was a drizzle for the rest of evening. So nothing was accomplished. I did, however, get to watch a weave get put in a woman’s hair. This took a good three hours, while her actual hair was braided into tight cornrows-ish, the weave sown into these braids, then cut and styled. And all that the hairdresser charged was $14. I was shocked. I pay that much just to get a very cheap trim that takes maybe a whole 15 minutes. I asked the hairdresser about the price. She said that it was $10 to buy the actual physical weave of hair. Then $4 for the “cut.” I was flabbergasted. $4 for a solid 3 hours of work. And that included the work of 3 or 4 apprentices, including one that gave the woman a pedicure while she was getting her weave styled. Wow.

On a less pleasant note, I started feeling pretty sick at some point. The hairdresser blamed this on the spicy lunch. I don’t buy this, however, since I east spicy foods all the time in the states, and also spicy foods don’t give you a fever. I blame this somewhat on my exposure to a plethora of new bugs here. But more so, I blame this on the lack of nutrition that exists within this country. I think my host family has been instructed by the Peace Corps to provide us regularly with veggies. Everywhere else all that is available is grains and meat. I never though I would crave more fruits and veggies, but I guess I’ve just gotten really used to eating them. In fact, over the past year I was mostly vegetarian, eating meat only when someone else prepared it for me. That is kind of the policy I have continued here. I told my host family that I was vegetarian, but I eat fish (I guess that makes me pescatarian). Forgetting, of course, that fish here doesn’t come in boneless filets, but rather as whole fish, with bones a plenty. So I’ve been picking my way through fish this whole time, and swallowing far too many fish bones. Regardless, my host family still gives me a huge pile of grains—rice, spaghetti, or pate—or sometimes fries, with perhaps a can of peas dumped on it. If I get really lucky, they’ll give me plantains. And at least in my omelets in the morning I get onions and peppers. My point is, my nutrition here has been horrendous. Perhaps 5 years ago—maybe even 2 years ago—I would have been content with this “meat and rice” diet, but I hate it now.

This is another reason why this garden market is so important in Kérou. But at the same time, people need to be educated on the importance of fruits and vegetables, so they know its good to include them in every meal. And so they stop giving their children nothing but corn and corn-meal. On the other hand, this faces other challenges. Hubert pointed out that if someone is going to work in the fields, they needs something heavy to fill them up. If they just eat a bunch of veggies, they might initially feel full, but then they’ll got to the fields and feel hungry again after a few hours. That is why pate is so big here, it’s a nice, heavy, simple meal. I think that the same problem exists for farmers in the states. I know that my dad’s family would prepare huge meals (usually soaked in lard) for the hard days working in the fields. How can you combine the need for good nutrition with also the need to maintain a good stamina all day? Oh, so many challenges. And it’s not like we’ve answered the nutrition question in the states either.

But at least we know about nutrition, even if we don’t follow it. Like food groups, that you should be eating multiple servings of fruits and veggies, and so on. Here, no one is really taught that. This morning, when I was still feeling sick from the previous day, Hubert said, “you really need to eat to get the strength to fight the sickness.” But what did he give me? Spaghetti and a hard-boiled egg. It’s not like the spaghetti was even whole-grain. What I really wanted was some chicken-noodle soup. But I don’t think soup is even a concept that exists here. (Hubert said his wife would know how to make soup. I just looked at him like, “You take some water, throw some bouillon in it, some veggies, maybe some rice or noodles, whatever you want and let it simmer all day. The end.”) This is another reason I am really looking forward to being on my own. I can make whatever I want (provided I can find the ingredients). I can cook to my veggie delight, and make chicken noodle soup (or some version of it) when I’m sick. I think it will be a real struggle to stay nutritious here, but I’ll try. Which speaking of, I’ve lost about 10-15 pounds since I got here. On the other hand, I gained about 15 pounds the month or so before coming to Benin when my philosophy was “must-eat-everything-since-I-won’t-get-this-for-two-years-in-Africa”. And that included meat, so now it’s just all balanced out. No healthy habits there, but oh well. I’ll work on it.

Monday, 13 August 2012


Today I felt so much better after resting most of the day yesterday and drinking plenty of water. Plus Hubert’s family brought me a bunch of bananas, which partially addressed my fruit-problems.

This morning we went to visit some other villages south of Kérou. In these, there are already gardening groups. The one in Ouinra (pronounced win-er-a), was started by a former volunteer. Their record-keeping seems to have tapered off since her departures. But I’m not sure if this means the group has as well. There are a few less members, but still people who are involved. I am curious as to what factors into the sustainability of groups established by volunteers. Some groups seem to have better success, and I wonder if this is more influenced by the presence of a strong personality/leader in the community, or by the socio-economic conditions of the community, or both.

M. also went with me, as our homologues think it is a good idea to include health things, such as nutritional education, information about malaria, and so on, along with my work in economic development. I aggress, this is very important. M. and I were discouraged by the long distance to the village. It is 22 km—that is 13 miles—to the village. And we have to bike that. O! Curse you, non-safety of motorcycles! Curse you Peace Corps policy! Curse me for saying I enjoy biking! Well, at least I can say that I will be nice and fit when I come back to the states, with very defined thighs, and so on.

After that my program coordinator from the Peace Corps stopped by. Each one has a region to go around and observe the volunteers progress for the week, etc. He seemed pleased with everything that M. and I have accomplished so far. Then we went to visit the houses. Turns out the house I had seen earlier will officially be for M. We went there first, then to see mine. I actually had a choice in houses. The first was a disappointment. It was in an area one might call the “wrong side of the tracks,” although in Kérou, it might be more accurate to say, “the wrong side of the creek.” It was across from the Imam’s house and next to a mosque, which is fine, except for the judgment and 5AM calls to prayer (I would have the same complaint about living beside a church with its judgment and church bells). The inside was cramped and dirty, still filled with the previous tenant’s stuff. There was also a dead rat in the kitchen area, plus I shared a latrine with other families. So everyone was a little wary of this place, and I was worried about what I was getting myself into.

The next place was the one. Yes it was a drastic improvement to the other one, but even without that contrast, it was almost everything I could want in a house. The only drawback is that it’s further out of town then the other, but not too far. So no big deal. It is also close to the mayor’s office and to the gendarmerie. Usually living near the police station wouldn’t be a plus, but at least here, I think it will help my grandmother sleep a little better at night back in the States. It has a large family room and two bedrooms, which is entirely too large for me, especially considering I spent this past year in Oklahoma not even using my ONE bedroom. My excuse was that I had only brought what could fit in my little car. Now I have only what I could fit in a few suitcases, and even more space. M. says that I should make the second room into a walk-in closet, but again it’s not like I brought enough clothes for that. Maybe I can make this room for my monkey. :) Upon further consideration, I actually have been thinking of kitchen/food related things I could do with that room. Like can I build something to make it cooler, like a cellar? Can I learn to can veggies and store them here? I guess this shows what I enjoy, in the same way that my sister’s favorite section in Target is the makeup section, since she is so glamorous. I however, always enjoy browsing the kitchen section, maybe getting new glasses/plates or a new pan, a new knife or some cooking utensil, etc.

My favorite part is the back, though. I have my own private little courtyard, and the set-up is such that there is a perfect place to hang my hammock. To the right I have a small kitchen, with a door that closes and locks. On the other side is the shower, which—at the insistence of our safety and security director—is being turned into a latrine, and a new shower constructed beside it. I am very content with this, because it means I won’t have to leave my house to use the latrine. And my neighbors won’t have to be aware of my bowel movements. (Oh! Privacy!) I don’t have running water. In fact, I think the only place in Kérou that does is the hotel, which has its own water tower. (A small one made of plastic. You can see these throughout the country.) Luckily, there is a pump not too far behind my house. I have to pay one whole dollar a month to use it, but that’s perfectly fine. I assume I will come to pay a lot of attention to the water I use, and when I come back to the states, lecture people on their waste of water. (Here’s looking at you, little sis of the long showers.)

Tuesday, 14 August 2012


One month until I become an official Peace Corps Volunteer. Right now I am only a ‘trainee.’ This morning another torrential downpour kept me from my schedule. Instead, I was restricted to my room. I tried to be productive, mostly working on papers that the Peace Corps requires, and also thinking about what I want to do with my house and various potential projects here. When the rain cleared off, Hubert took me to see the site that has been designated for his “Maison des Maraîchers” (House of Market-Gardeners) project. It is right in the center of town, actually kind of close to the site for the every-four-days market. It is a great location. It is relieving to know that he already has support of the mayor, who designated this land for the project. That is one less hurdle. I am really excited to start on this project and getting other people involved.

After that, we went back to my house and marked out where Hubert will have the mason affix brackets for my hammock. I am really excited about this, and I hope it is ready for my hammock when I return in a month.

This evening I looked over the materials that Edoward (President of “Ben Club”) had dropped off for me. When I was at their meeting, they had mentioned that they were working on writing the internal rules and regulations (by-laws) of their organization. Having working on this very think in one of my masters classes last year, and hoping to build up my French vocab, I offered to look over what they had already done and help them when I return. However, it turns out that “working on” means “haven’t even started” so all I got was some old manual that was intended for development works who were going around starting micro-finance groups. In it, however, is a model by-laws for such organizations. So at least I will have somewhere to start. I will go over this while I’m in Porto Novo, and discuss it with them when I get back, such as the parts they want to keep or change, and so on. It will be a good exercise for me. It seems kind of mundane, but I think they need it to get official financial support, so that is why they’re finally getting around to this, four years after the group’s inception. Again, I’m glad for this though, since I will now have two major written projects to work on while I’m getting used to Kérou and meeting people. Plus one of these projects (the by-laws) I will have to write entirely in French, and the other (a grant proposal for the Maison des Maraîchers) I have to translate a lot into English from French. So yay for building French skills.

Which speaking of, I think my French skills are finally showing real improvement. I’ve started using new words without studying them, without realizing I actually know them until they pop out. That has always been a sign for me that my French is going up. Now on to Bariba…yikes!

Wednesday, 15 August 2012


Today was my last full day in Kérou. I woke up in the morning expecting activities with Hubert. But then he says, “Oh, there is someone who wants me to go plant trees for them.” (I think he has some sort of landscaping business on the side). So off he goes, and I had to sit around for an hour before we went and had breakfast.

But finally we did. Then we went to see if they had chains that I could use to hang up my hammock. There were none, so I think I have to try to find those in Porto Novo. But at least I know, so I can get them. Also, on a whim, I asked Hubert if there was “café granulé” available. He said something about how there used to be Frenchies living in Kérou, and they had it, but since their departure, no. How depressing.

We got to meet the mayor for the first time today. She has been away on business. She lives in a very large and nice house. She even has a flat-screen TV and surround-sound. But for me the best part was that I was petting her cat, then all of the sudden, a kid brings out a two-week-old kitten!!! Oh my, it was so cute. And just looking around, mewing, like “Who took me away from my warm bed?” I am definitely planning on getting a cat when I am here. I don’t think I could get a dog, too much hassle when traveling (things like kennels don’t exist). Conveniently, a volunteer here has a cat that has kittens every four months or so, so I can just get one from the next litter.

For lunch, we were invited to eat with an employee at the mayor’s office. Everyone ordered a beer, except for me, because I really, really hate beer. I give in sometimes, but mostly I prefer not to drink at all when beer is the only option. The person who invited us called me out for not drinking. He told me that I just wasn’t used to Beninese drinks, but I told him I just didn’t like beer. He told me I’d get used to it. No, I insisted. I hate beer. It’s gross and stupid. Especially this stupid Beninese stuff that is closer to water than anything. I like liquor. And lo and behold, maybe 10 minutes later a bottle of whiskey showed up. I think he had called or sent someone to go get it. Now that’s hospitality!

After that, I just returned to Hubert’s house and packed. Then he showed me a documentary that had been made by the government about the commune of Kérou. It was a lot of the mayor talking, and mostly boring, but it was still cool to see scenes of Kérou on film.

Saturday, 18 August 2012


I’ve accepted that every time I travel in this country, it will be an adventure. Two days ago I took another taxi from Kérou, this time to Nattitangou (the fourth largest city in Benin). It was slightly less crowded then the one I took from Parakou to Kérou. Actually, M. and I thought we were going to ride in luxury, having only two people in each row. But as we went along, we kept adding more people, and more stuff. The driver seems to view this trip as his own personal shopping jaunt. “Oh, is that charcoal on the side of the road? Let me stop and buy two huge bags of it and throw it on top of the van.”

Also, there were some chickens that were along for the ride. They were simply bound and thrown on top of the van. Now, my classmate in Porto Novo constantly talks about how chickens are disproportionately stupid for their size. And they really are. They are decent-sized animals, and. yet. so. dumb. Like as dumb as a fly. They just wander around, trying to eat everything, irrationally afraid if you walk in their general direction, and unable to do any sort of logical thinking. My classmate calls them, “god’s only mistake.” I would have to add, though, they are also god’s worst punishment. I think Hindus believe that if you really mess up in this life, you come back as something miserable, such as beetle or whatever. But if you come back as a chicken? You really f-ed up in your previous life. Like you were probably Hitler. Now you are stuck with a terribly dumb brain, and on top of that treated miserably. If you are born in the States, then you grow up crammed into these tight cages unable to move a muscle your entire sorry life, as other chickens poop on you and die around you (and even “free-range” chickens are kept in miserable conditions, mind you), popping out eggs (if you’re a female), until someone decides to slaughter you. If you are born here, then maybe you get to run around as a youngster. But then your feet are tied together, and you are slung on top of a van, forced to endured bouncing around in the hot African sun, shuffled every time a new package is added, and no one seems to mind if you fall off and are just dangling upside down on the side of the van, until finally at the end, someone puts you out of your misery. And yet, because you were Hitler once upon a time, you’ll probably come back as a chicken again.

So that was my ride. We also at some point, came upon a hill that was really steep and fully of slate-y rocks. So they made every passenger get out and walk up the hill themselves. Then the van came up and picked us all up again. Then at another point, there was a sharp decline, right into a bridge. The incline was too steep, meaning that the front bumper of the van kept hitting rocks. Then we got stuck. So we are sitting there, the van angled towards the river, off the bridge, and the driver has the vehicle in first gear, “Vroooooooom”. I am thinking, “If this catches, we are all lurching into the creek.” But luckily the driver is apparently used to this situation, and eased up on the gas as soon as it caught, and turned the van to go straight across the bridge. Then at the other end, he drove on land that was angled so we were tipped over at a good 45-degree angle. I freaked out and grabbed for the high side, which of course accomplishes nothing. M. laughed at me, and soon we were upright again. I am actually quite used to driving at an angle. When we traveling in Senegal, we would drive for really long stretches of the road at this tilted angle, like it was normal. Here I hadn’t experienced that yet; it’s mostly been a wandering back and forth across the road in search for the least pot-hole-y stretch, rather than just driving half off the road the whole time. But there is just SO MUCH stuff that is piled on top of the van; I don’t understand how it is physically possible that they don’t tip over. Does physics work here? I don’t get it.

Okay, and I may use a few curse words in this following paragraph, but I think they are well deserved, so sorry. Also it’s not the most pleasant subject, but this is my life here, so deal. Or don’t read it. Anyway, when we were stopped in one time, about 2/3 of the way into our trip, I discovered that I really had to go to the bathroom, and I don’t mean just to pee. So I asked the drivers where I could go, figuring they make this jaunt often enough (every 4 days), that they should know what is available in each town. Instead they asked a zemi to take me to a toilet. So I got on, thinking that he was just taking to a latrine, just at the other end of the small town. No. He takes me out to the brush. Then he was like, “Okay, here.” I’m just thinking, “If I just had to go in the woods, I would have done that myself!!” And I say to him in French, “No, a toilet! A WC! A REAL toilet.” He drives a little further down the road, and again points into the woods, though this time it was a little thicker area. I don’t think he spoke French, and I really had to go, now, so I was just like whatever. I trekked a little into the bush, prayed to Mother Nature and the gods of public health for forgiveness, and squatted down. As I am in this position, I hear the zemi start up its motor and drive away. I am just squatting there, thinking “Are you shitting me????” to no one in particular. Then I realized the irony, said, “touché” aloud, finished, then trekked the quarter-mile back to the van. When I got back, M. says, “Where did you go?? I literally just used a latrine that is right there,” and she pointed to a latrine not 50 feet away. F.M.L.

So that was my return trip from Kérou. I arrived in Nattitangou in the evening, and went to the workstation. It was actually pretty nice. There are four workstations in Benin, where volunteers can come to stay on their way to somewhere else. I will have to stay here at least once a month, since there is no bank in my town, and I will have to come to Nattitangou every month to get my monthly allowance. There are beds, a kitchen, a huge library of shared second-hand books, and internet. I met up with some of the other volunteers who were there. We went out Thursday night, and got a bottle of Sodabe (the local moonshine) to split between us. It was fun, and we talked about our two weeks at our post. Some people had really been missing speaking English. I don’t have that problem, since I have other volunteers in my town.

Friday was a very chill day. We made pancakes in the morning, which was fun. We didn’t have enough supplies, so I walked down the a nearby supermarket to buy some. I also got some tomatoes and onions, plus eggs. I was so happy to be able to make my food, and put veggies in it. I know it’s just tomatoes and onions, but honestly those are going to be the only veggies the are available year-round here. So I put those in my scrambled eggs. Delicious!

I spent a lot of the day reading a new book I picked out from the library. At some point we went to buy our tickets for the bus the next day. Then we went to get lunch at a restaurant. I got some pizza, which was decent. And I was able to get Pineapple juice as my drink. Mmm, something quasi-healthy! The pizza, not so much, although I did get the one with the most veggies, but anyways, a purely healthy meal hardly exists within this country. With the exception of the dinner we had that night. It was made by someone the volunteer in Natti happened to stumble upon. He prepared this delicious meal of salad to start, a simmering stew over couscous, then a couscous-cake for desert. Ahh, so good and so many veggies! It was kind of expensive. I’m pretty sure that I spent more over these two days in Natti then I spent the entire time in Kérou. Granted, in Kérou, almost all the meals were provided for me, but still. Even if I did have to pay for them, they wouldn’t be that much. I just really have to watch when I go to Natti how much I spend. It’s so easy to splurge, convincing yourself that this is a once-in-a-month opportunity.

A little before sunset, we had gone up to this bar on the hill. It overlooks the city of Nattitangou. I couldn’t help but be a little jealous of the people who live in this city. It is so gorgeous, with plenty of hills. There is so much to do here. Plenty of buvettes, entertainment, and so on. There are markets where you can get everything, including tons of fresh veggies. There are banks and other luxuries. After being in Kérou for a week and a half, it feels like NYC! I am also jealous of the people who live within an hour or two of the city. It takes me a whole day to get here! I know, I know. After a bit I will be unable to imagine living anywhere but Kérou. And I really do love my homologue and the work that is waiting for me. I just have to remember that I felt this exact same way going to Stillwater, Oklahoma, (“Oh no, I’m stuck in this po-dunk town with nothing to do, no dance clubs, etc, no hot boys, just cowboys.”). And there I had the most amazing year of my life. Can I get lucky enough that it will happen again? Maybe I need this fear of an impending boring two years to drive me to seek out friends, etc, in the town. I don’t know. We’ll just have to see as it unfolds.

Finally, Saturday we got up early to go back to Porto Novo. The bus driver was in a hurry and—I think this is the technical term—hauled ass back down south. We arrived in Porto Novo in only 7 hours. That is precisely how long it took me to get from Kérou to Natti. (Look on Google maps for the contrast in distance). This bus ride was so, so much better. It’s an actual bus, it was air-conditioned (a little cold for this time of year, but no one would be complaining during the hot period). And I could actually read for some of the trip. So yay.

Thus ends my exploration throughout Benin. Now for a month of “technical” training in Porto Novo, before heading back North.

Monday, 29 August 2012


Since I haven’t gotten to an internet source yet, I’ll go ahead and share this along with everything else. Today the Peace Corps “trainees” all got together back in Porto Novo to begin our technical training. To start off, we went around and shared about our site, what it’s like, what we’ll be doing there, etc. Of all the sites, I think mine is the more remote and smallest town. There is one girl that lives a little north of me, but she is in a bigger town and closer to her workstation. Everyone else talks about their houses with running water, their sites that are only a few hours from Porto Novo and Cotonou (mine is 14, at best), or sites that are in other major cities, the availability of so many veggies, since their cities or towns are at a crossroads or a big market. One volunteer lives close to Porto Novo, and has his own third-floor terrace. He can smell the salt air from the ocean.

Now, granted, this is of all of the “Community Economic Development” (CED) volunteers. They tend to live in more urban areas, have nicer houses, etc. So for me, it’s like being the skinniest kid at fat camp. Compared to the rest of my peers I am in the brush. But compared to the general population of Peace Corps Volunteers, I have it pretty good. Some of the Rural Health volunteers, or Teachers, or Environment Workers are living in far more primitive conditions. But now I am discussing my situation with my business peers, and all I can get is pity; no real commiseration. It’s really frustrating. I am so happy with my job that I will have over the next two years. But I H.A.T.E. my location. I keep wondering why they sent me to the most remote location. Especially when I specifically put during my placement interview in Benin that the two most important things to me were: 1) being a larger town/city and 2) having a lot of things to do. I didn’t even mention job-type preferences (not that I really have any sort of specialty). Is that wrong? I’m pretty sure I chose my undergrad based on location. (Do I want to go to school in downtown historical Charleston, South Carolina, with beautiful palmetto trees, only 20 minutes away from the beach? Absolutely!) And it was a wonderful experience, plus I got a good education. That is where I came to love African studies in the first place. I remember one day discussing applying for PhD programs with one of my professors there. I mentioned that I didn’t really want to apply to schools in the north (aka Wisconsin, Michigan, Columbia, UPenn, which all have really strong African History programs), because I hate the cold. He looked at me like I was stupid and said something to the effect of, “Well, you could apply only to schools in warm areas, and get a mediocre education and degree. Or you could suck it up and apply to the better schools in colder regions.” And so I applied to those cold schools. I didn’t get in to any, mind you, so instead I found myself going to a masters program in middle-of-nowhere Oklahoma. Again, I thought this might be miserable, but I had the most wonderful year of my life. (Have I mentioned that before?) Then I insisted in every conversation I had with the Peace Corps that I absolutely wanted to be in French-speaking West Africa. They told me to be flexible, and I told them I was. I just really, really wanted to be in West Africa. And now, ha ha, joke’s on me, because I’m still not completely satisfied.

I have this feeling of determination that I WILL make these upcoming two years amazing. I WILL do great things. I WILL have fun. It’s stupid to be so hung up on this location thing. But as I listen to my fellow CED volunteers, I can’t help but feel discouraged. Why couldn’t I get the cushy site? Not that anyone’s assignment is truly cushy. Everyone has their own challenges and work cut out for them. Job-wise, I think mine has many, many advantages. But dammit, LIFE, stop sending me to these impossibly rural areas!!! I don’t actually like them.

P.S. congrats on making it through all this. And just so you know, the title of my blog this week is the Motto of Kérou. I thought it was a nice touch.

Thursday, August 2, 2012

“It is not length of life, but depth of life”



I wanted to mention something unrelated to my experience. In the past few months, two people—whom I did not personally know, but who were important in the life of people that I do know—have died tragically. They were both doing something that they love—one sailing and the other mountain climbing. While their stories remind us that nature is strong and ultimately unconquerable, I hope that their tragedies do not lead us to fear, but rather to embrace life to the fullest while we still have the opportunity. I wish that perhaps life was not so cruel, to separate us from the ones we love in such an untimely manner. But I would not wish restraint upon anyone, just so that they might lengthen their years. Death can come at any moment, whether you’re climbing to the top of the world, or simply driving to work. But we should all strive to live fully and well. We should all do what makes us happy, but also, I think it is equally important to strive to make a difference in the lives of others as well. Whether there exists an afterlife or not, that is inconsequential. You should live so that others might find happiness and strength in your example and in your kindness. What remains after you pass but the memories you give to others?

Sunday, 29 July 2012


So I talked to another volunteer who is in the Peace Corps here in Benin. He said that I should feel good about where they sent me; if I was placed in the North that means that the Peace Corps thinks I can handle my shit. Which is flattering, but in some part of my mind, I’m thinking, “Can I go back in time then? Act irresponsible and dumb? Then they’ll have to place me somewhere that they can monitor me? In the South? Close to Cotonou or something?” I’m not entirely convinced that I was placed in the North just because I can handle myself; part of me feels like this is penance for my past year in Oklahoma, which was spent having entirely too much fun.

In reality, I am not so very disappointed. I am just worried that I will not be able to go out and dance a lot and I will really miss it. In some ways I feel guilty for saying and thinking that. You must think me an alcoholic, a partier. Especially after the beginning of this blog, talking about life and death, why am I worried about the mundane? But drinking allows me to more easily break out of this shell of timidity in which I find myself, and dancing makes me feel more alive. And I know that I should be here to serve, that is the Peace Corps. In fact, why did I join the Peace Corps if I am worrying about going out and dancing? But the fact of my life is that while I love going out drinking and dancing, I am at the exact same time very studious and hard-working. While completing the year of classes for my masters, I went out with my friends very frequently. Yet in every single class (except for one) I got an “A”. In that other class I got a “B”. That is not too shabby at all. Going out is not my number one priority; I will stay in and work if I need to. I will get up on a Saturday morning to volunteer (as I did in Oklahoma). However, going out dancing really does make me happy. Those are the things I think are most important in life: serving others and being happy. I want both. Is that too much to ask?

Overall, I may even be doing all this fretting for no reason. It’s not like the people in northern Benin have a hatred of fun. There is plenty of local dance and music that exists there. It will just probably be something I am not used to. Right now I just really wish I knew more about my post, but I’m sure even if I did, I wouldn’t really know it until I went there and experienced it myself. The Peace Corps does make it sound like if you (especially if you are a woman) go out drinking and dancing at night, you will automatically gain the reputation of a whore, have no respect in your community, and be absolutely useless in your work there.  However, I also am finding it hard to believe everything the Peace Corps says. I have seen any things in my short time in Porto Novo that contradict all that I’ve been told. Sure, the perfect Peace Corps employee would be someone who dutifully went to work, spent their free time doing many secondary projects, and their nights and weekends studying the language, etc. Someone who never went out drinking, never went out at night, when it’s dark, and so on. But I don’t think this is a reality, or I’m not sure if it’s even necessary. Sure, perhaps there are some people who can’t handle themselves, who did go out drinking in college to the detriment of their grades. But it doesn’t have to be that way. I think the Peace Corps finds it better to make like they have extreme expectations (i.e. It is highly recommended never to go out at night) knowing full well that their volunteers will disregard this advice, but perhaps they will exercise more caution and restraint. It’s like they asked us to spend the last few weeks speaking ONLY French, even to each other. Obviously, that did not happen. However, since that expectation was there, we spoke French, probably more often then we would have if the Peace Corps had just said, “Well, try to speak it French when possible.” So I’m going to assume that I will have a lot more freedom and opportunities and fun than the Peace Corps makes it sound like.

Meanwhile, I am still in Porto Novo, and last night I was able to use my time here to finally go out dancing. I went with a man that I met at the Ecole Normale. He is from Ghana, actually. That means he speaks English, not French. This is both good and bad. Communication is easier, but it’s not helping me learn French. Also, it’s really throwing me off. I keep trying to speak French to him, but then I’ll come home, then try to speak English to my host family. So everyone is just confused all around. Anyway, it was weird because my host mom insisted on meeting him before she would let me go out in the late night. I’ve never actually had the experience of introducing a guy to my parents before going out (I didn’t really date in high school). Nevertheless, I think my dad instilled a fear of this possibility, because he always threatened that he would pull out his shotguns and be cleaning them when this hypothetical guy came by to pick me up. But this experience was relatively painless, my host mom just wanted to physically see him, told him that she wanted to see who her daughter was going out with, then was like “Have good evening!” The end. (She also has been perfectly fine with me hanging out with him whenever, now that she’s seen him. This does not make sense to me. At home, my parents generally trusted me to make smart decisions. Not that they had much choice, since I went far away to college. Meeting someone for 5 seconds wouldn’t have made them feel any better about we staying out late with that person. )

Actually before he arrived, my host mom and cousin constantly reminded me to be careful, not to leave my drink unattended, etc. All the stuff I know. My cousin also told me not to greet anyone I didn’t know, because apparently in Benin when you shake hands with someone, they could put a spell on you so you do whatever they want you to do. I told him that wasn’t true, and he just went around the house, laughing at me, saying, “Haha, she doesn’t think this is true!” I was just like, “That’s not possible. I don’t believe it.” Then he responded, “Oh, so if you don’t believe it, then it can’t happen?” And I just responded, “Yes.” Does he really believe that? Or was it just a joke? I can’t tell.

Anyway, I left with the Ghanaian first went to this bar, which turned out to have karaoke. I think karaoke is the worst thing ever invented. No one wants to hear you sing except your drunk friends. I really don’t understand the point or joy of karaoke, but maybe that’s just me. Usually I thought people just picked out popular current songs or classics. But at this place, people were really serious. One guy chose “You Raise Me Up.” That was the song that my sister played on her flute for my Dad’s funeral. Thanks for reminding me of the saddest moment of my entire life when I am just trying to go out and have fun. But two of the girls sang “My Heart Will Go On” and “I Will Always Love You.” They were shockingly really good singers. Still, not the appropriate songs for a Saturday night at a bar. But whatever. Maybe that’s just me.

Afterwards, we went to this nightclub that is in a basement of a hotel in Porto Novo. They played a lot Latin music, which was random, as well as Beninese and French songs, and so on. I had such a great, fun time dancing. I am really glad I finally got to go out.

Later that day…


I talked to my Mom just now, briefly. She asked me if I really expected anything else besides living in rural Africa. Thinking back, I’m not really sure what I expected at the beginning of this whole process of going into the Peace Corps. It just seemed like something I should do, it felt right, and so I applied. No expectations. But then I talked to some people who were all like, “Oh, you’re doing business development, you’re going to live in a (relatively) large town, live in a (relatively) nice house” and so on. So I kind of clung on to this false idea of (relative) luxury, and now I’ve simply been smacked back to reality. I mean, there really are some volunteers who are living in large towns, some even will have fridges (that’s the high life right there), and so on. But that’s just not going to be my life. And that’s fine. As long as I will have the chance to let loose, at least occasionally.

My host family has not been so encouraging. There was another gathering this evening (which I was informed of 2 minutes before my Maman wanted to leave, per usual). My Maman told her family about my assignment. They’re all like, “Oh, Kérou? Where is that? Oh yeah, that’s so far! There’s nothing there!” The Peace Corps did warn us that that would probably happen. Especially since our families tend to be mid-to-upper-class and obviously city-dwellers. One of my uncle’s friends apparently goes to Kérou a lot. And he took down my number, saying he would visit. Although, then there was a lot of joking (much of which was in a language I didn’t understand) that I think meant that they thought he was trying to hit on me, or something. And another uncle was like, “I’m going to send your picture to his wife.” So then it just got real awkward.

Monday, 30 July 2012


So I wanted to insert another story about my fabulous professor. Well, who is technically not my professor any longer, but oh well. Anyway, Thursday night my family gave me fish that included the head. That was the first time we had done that. I mentioned that in my class the next morning (this is with my other, temporary professor), and that teacher was basically like, “Oh, yeah there are some people that eat the fish heads, but that is so weird, I don’t get it.” However, after we all got our assignments, everyone went to this one bar, and my other classmate and I took some time to talk to our professor. He got a meal that consisted solely of a fried fish head and hot sauce. We questioned him about this, and he laughed, saying that he loved fish heads, had grown up eating them, and so on. In fact, if you come to his house, it is required that you leave the fish heads for him to eat. Which is perfectly fine by me. Then he proceeded to eat EVERYTHING. Just piece by piece, dipped in hot pepper sauce, the fish head disappeared, bones, eyes, and all. I don’t think I could ever do that, but I find it fabulous that he will just eat it. At least it’s not wasteful.

Also, it just so happens that a former PC student of his (who he talks about all the time; he even called the other student with me by this guy’s name on multiple occasions) was also sent to Kérou. So he gave me the contact information for this guy. I sent him a facebook message, and got a wonderful—if very intense—reply about Kérou. It was everything from the projects this volunteer worked on to a map with important places/people in Kérou to a recommendation to bring more books than clothes with me to this post. I feel somewhat reassured but I also I think I feel better just knowing more about the place I will spend the next two years of my life. And not just the useless information provided by the Peace Corps, such as the inconclusive population statistics, as well as the statistics on how many cows are in the commune (a commune is what Americans would consider a “county”), and of course, the headings such as “Social Organization” or “Financial Resources” with multiple sub-headings and absolutely no text. This will basically be my life for the next two years: incomplete documents and very little direction. I guess I’ll just have to figure it out myself.

So anyway, I’m leaving for Kérou this Sunday, I’m not sure if I will have any updates for you before them or during my two-week stay. Just so you know. Wish me luck!

Saturday, July 28, 2012

Frustration and Deliberation


Tuesday, 24 July 2012


I think my assessment that I have hit a plateau in my language learning was correct. We got back the results from our Language Proficiency Interview and I received and “Intermediate-High”. I know that I took an ACTFL Oral Proficiency Interview test a few years ago, and on that I received an “Advanced-Low”. At that point in my life, I had recently completed a semester in Senegal, however, the interview wasn’t for 4 or so months after I left. I feel like my language would have rapidly declined, since I wasn’t using it every day. Here I am in language class for 7 hours a day, plus I talk to my family and other people in the community outside of that. I should be speaking a lot better than I did when I was living in the US. On the other hand, my teacher feels like my rating was low. And perhaps this is accurate. I didn’t feel great about the interview. I tend to be able to talk very well when I have something to say. However, I suck at creating sentences out of thin air, just to say something. I think that is just my personality and the way my mind works. For example, in class, when we are reviewing grammar and my teacher asks me to make up a sentence using this newly-learned rule, I find this damn near impossible to do on the fly. I have to think about it very methodically for way too long, and no one wants to wait for that. But if later I am talking and suddenly have a usage for this new grammar rule, I can put it into play.

Anyways, the Peace Corps has reorganized all of the classes, so I am no longer with the same professor. This is very sad. My new professor is actually the one who gave me the low rating. Boo. I don’t know what more I can do. I have been taking the language classes, making tons of flashcards with new vocabulary, and reading Beninese (French) books. Plus I will actually stop studying French and start a local language on the 30th. I would be excited about this, but I’m mad that my French is not progressing like I want. Oh well. I guess I will just have to keep working at it!

Also, it is hard for me to make friends. I feel like this is way too big of a group for me. I do better in somewhat smaller groups, where everyone is forced to hang out with me, until they realize that I really am an awesome person to be around, and can’t imagine NOT wanting to hang out with me. But in this large group, everyone sections off, and I sit in my corner and read, which isn’t helping. On the other hand, I remember commenting that I wanted to avoid the only-friends-with-Americans trap, because if I only associate with other Americans, why bother leaving the States? For now, however, it is hard to meet Beninese people, because I just have classes all day with these Americans, which leaves very little time for socializing with Beninese, besides of course, my wonderful family.

I did get the urge to do something about this today. After class, I rode over to the Ecole Normale, where we sometimes have class. I thought that maybe I could just meet some students there, at least talk to them or something. I have done that before. When we’ve actually had class there, students will sometimes come up to us and strike up a conversation. Unfortunately, the school seemed closed off, I think because they are in the time of exams now or something. So instead I went home. When I go there, the little boy with whom I played cards in an earlier blog entry, was there. He was playing with this tiny plastic ball (about the size of my fist). It was all bent in, but we ended up throwing it around. He can throw with some accuracy, but can’t catch the ball even if I threw it right to his hands. After a little bit of toss, he just started kicking it to me. I guess football (you probably call it soccer) is a more popular sport here; and no one really plays baseball or American football.

After we had been playing for a bit, some other neighborhood kids saw me, yelled, “YOVO!” then started singing a song that is popular in Benin. It goes: “Yovo, Yovo bonsoir! Ca va bien? Merci.” This literally means: “White person, white person, good evening! Are you well? Thank you!” My professor informed us that this song stems from the historic reality that white people, typically missionaries and priests, would give little gifts to the children, so they are greeting and thanking you all in one song. It follows us volunteers everywhere we go. We only have to listen for this song to know that our friend is approaching.

While singing this song the kids ran over. I then tried to include them in this game, being the democratic and fair person that I am. I asked if everyone wanted to play, then told them to get in a circle. They didn’t understand at all (I don’t think many of them have started going to school where they would actually learn French). So then the game turned into “watch the yovo play catch with one kid, and pick up the ball for her every time it’s overthrown.” I played this awkwardly for a little bit, while adult Beninese people walked by looking at me like I was crazy for playing ball with these random gaggle of kids in the middle of the street. Finally I was like, “umm…I have to do study…”

Oh, and another bizarre thing that happened in this game was when a motorcycle drove by. I moved to the side and said to the kid “Doucement!” which is a French word that the Beninese people use as a catch-all phrase meaning anything from, “Watch/Look out,” “Pay attention,” “Be careful,” and “Excuse me [for running into you].” (Sidenote, that last one is annoying. “doucement” literally means, “softly” so I don’t understand why a Beninese person is telling ME to be careful if they were the one that ran into me. But whatever). ANYWAY, after I said this to the kid, and kind of waved him to the side, the motorcycle driver was like, “No, continue to play!” This contradicts everything I was taught as a child, haha. You are always supposed to stop your game when a car drives by. Maybe we are just too safe in America, haha.

Now I want to bring up something that I’ve just been thinking about lately. I don’t want anyone to start worrying (GRANDMA), but here goes. If you have googled anything like, “peace corps, west Africa” lately, or just seen in the news, you might know that there was a slight incident in Ghana last week. Two Saturdays ago, someone tried to rob two volunteers there. One volunteer fought back, with a knife, and fatally wounded one of the robbers. The news then reported that this person had been arrested; however, one of my Peace Corps leaders said that he or she had only been questioned, not actually arrested. And furthermore, there were reports that the inhabitants of the town were not entirely upset about all this; supposedly the person who tried to mug the volunteers was a trouble-maker anyway.

The point of bringing this story up, however, is to share a discussion I had with my cousin regarding this incident. When I first heard reports that the person had been arrested, I was a little freaked out. Here was someone, who was just reacting in a way that is entirely reasonable in our culture. Yet they might have to face trial in an unfamiliar justice system, and so on. The American Embassy doesn’t help you if you’re being charged with a crime under that country’s laws. The Peace Corps mentions this specifically in the instance of drug possession/use; they WILL NOT help you out if you get entangled in that business. Luckily I don’t intend on using/possessing drugs, killing anyone, or really breaking any laws, so I think I’m good J.

So anyway, as I was freaking out, I mentioned the story to my cousin, half expecting him to have a similar reaction to mine, aka “What? Why would they arrest someone for self-defense?”

Instead his response was, “Yeah, that volunteer killed someone!”
Shocked, I said, “But the person was trying to mug them!”
My cousin looked at me weird, and replied, “Well, that doesn’t give anyone the right to kill that person!!!”

We ended up going back and forth in this argument. I argued that this clearly was a struggle of sorts (the robber/mugger had to be close enough to kill with a knife), and perhaps the volunteer really felt their life was in danger as well. My cousin continued to argue that, regardless, you shouldn’t be allowed to kill someone. You can fight back and stop them, but not to the point of ending their life. So this really got me thinking. In America we hold very dear our self-defense laws, our gun laws, and—perhaps most importantly for this situation—our property rights. In some states you can shoot someone for the minor infraction of daring to step foot on your land. So we might not see anything morally wrong with fighting a robber and ultimately killing them. But to my cousin, that reasoning made as much sense as perhaps “honor killings” make to us in America. Was the volunteer wrong? If it was just a point-blank mugging? Is your iPod or the whole $20 you are carrying really worth someone’s life? I know, I know, iPods are expensive. And sometimes I carry my computer, which not only is expensive, but also holds my life inside. If there’s a house fire (in the States), hands down, I’m running into the flames to save two things: my dog and my computer (assuming, of course, that my family has already made it out themselves). So I understand the urge; the attachment we Americans have to “stuff”. I’m not immune. But I have been told repeatedly, “Get yourself to safety; don’t risk your life for your stuff.” It’s not worth my life. But is it worth the life of someone else? Even if they were perhaps in the wrong for trying to rob you in the first place? Just something to think about.

Friday, 27 July 2012


Okay, well the grand announcement of today is that I know where I will be living for the next two years. It is Kérou! Now I know all of you know exactly where this is, but just in case, I’ll tell you. It’s in the North of Benin. Other than that I really don’t know much. Hopefully at the time I finally post this, I will finally be able to google and find out more. I’m not even sure if this is a place big enough to have anything on the Google. But then again, EVERYTHING is on the Google.

I know that as Peace Corps volunteer, my assignment is supposed to be in a small village/town and under trying conditions. But then again, so many people I talked to kept promising me that as a Community Economic Development volunteer, I would live in (relative) luxury. So I kind of got my hopes up. I even asked to be placed in a very large town in Benin. Honestly, my reasoning was that I would occasionally love to be able to go a nightclub, and I want to live without constant scrutiny of my personal life. I don’t think this is possible in a small town, especially in Africa, which has a very communal (rather than individualistic) perspective.

And like I said, I really know very little about the place where I will be. One paper that I received about it said that 50,000 people live in the county in which this town is located. Another paper said 80,000. One said that only about 1,000 people live in “urban centers” within this county. But as I talked to some of the instructors, some of them insisted that there might be at least 10,000 inhabitants. So who knows? I guess I will find out in a week when I go to visit the town.

So anyway, I am kind of disappointed, because I feel the boredom setting in already. And I have it very set in my mind that I like large cities. However, if nothing else, the past few years have taught me that LIFE knows better than I do. If things had gone as I wanted them to at the time, I would be sitting in some cold city in America, slaving away for my doctorate. But instead, I spent an absolutely fabulous time in Oklahoma (who would have thought that possible?) and I met the most incredible group of people ever, while I was taking courses for my masters. And now I have the chance to spend two years in West Africa, only taking on as much responsibility as I want, and with the opportunity to perhaps make a difference in the lives.

So to some (possible small, possibly mid-sized) town in Benin I will go. And, quite like the little town of Stillwater, OK, I think it will be a better experience than I can possibly imagine right now. I also will be stationed there with another volunteer, Maria. She is from Puerto Rico but went to school at Tulane, in LA. I have a feeling we will become close over the next two years by necessity. And although I originally said that I was looking forward to being on my own, i.e. not around other Americans, perhaps this is for the better. As I mentioned earlier, I tend to benefit from having a strong other personality in my life. We will be working in different jobs (she is in the Rural Community Health), but we will be able to go out and discover the little (or mid-sized) town together.

So the North of Benin is supposed to be absolutely beautiful. It has mountains and waterfalls, and I will be near-ish to Pendjari National Park. Often visitors go to this park to see the landscape as well as the wildlife, such as elephants, hippos, buffalo, warthogs, cheetahs, lions, etc. It can get really hot, aka 120 degrees or so. It can also get comparatively “cold” (all the way down to 50-ish!). I’m sure I will complain about and love both extremes. At least the north will not be humid. Although I am used to humidity, being from the east coast and all. And it will have far less mosquitos (yay!) My town is partly Muslim, and somewhat Christian, so I am looking forward to Tabaski which will happen maybe a few weeks or so after I arrive. People may be more conservative when it comes to dress lengths, for example. But more accepting of body piercings. People in the North are also supposed to be way more relaxed and friendly. I guess kind of like the stereotype that the South has in the US. Well, that’s what I’ve heard at least. Again, I really don’t know much and will have to let you know.

Anyway, feel free to google Kerou. And maybe even tell me what you find. I will depart for there August 5, and spend 2 weeks before returning to Porto Novo. I’m not sure about the whole internet situation, so don’t be surprised if I don’t write for a while after I depart.

P.S. something else is that I had said in my interview that I was willing to bike around. I should have clarified this with, "In FLAT cities. That aren't 120 degrees." But it for my assignment I will be spending some of my time working in a city about 10 km away from my post, and I will have to bike there. Looks like someone is going to be uber-in-shape upon my return to the US. Also, some people have been talking about organizing hiking expeditions, which will be fun.

Monday, July 23, 2012

Can Somebody Please Explain Things to Me?


Friday, 20 July 2012


OKAY. So today I had a big breakthrough with my family. I came home and my mom was cooking things for dinner. Then she had my cousin Sasha come over and try some of what she was making. Then Sasha starts explaining to me that my mom can’t eat anything right now, so he has to try it for her. The reason she can’t eat anything is that it’s the first day of Ramadan, and it was still daytime. I was just looking at him, dumbfounded, and he thought I didn’t understand what Ramadan was. But in my head I’m thinking, “WHAT? My Maman is Muslim?” This explains so many things, yet again creates so many more questions.

So knowing that she is Muslim, means the whole this-might-be-a-polygamous-family thing makes more sense. And quite honestly, my Papa makes a lot more sense with some of the things he said and in his boubou, among other things. Okay, I probably have to explain that last one. In Senegal, the main type of clothes that you see there on men our “boubous” which basically look like fancy pajamas. There are loose-fitting, straight pants. Then the shirt is also very loose, the sleeves are always long. The shirt can be any length from mid-thigh-, to knee-, to ankle-length. You’ve probably seen these or something similar on men from other Muslim and/or Arab countries. This contrasts with the typical Beninese male attire, which is called a “boumba” and ALSO looks like fancy pajamas, but there are subtle differences. Mostly that the shirt of a boumba is usually short-sleeved and also is a lot short in length: it usually only reaches to the upper thigh. These clothing differences have led to the Beninese joke my teacher shared with us, which was, “Where can you go to find a shirt that is longer than the pants? A Mosque! Ha ha ha.”

Anyway, so my family is Muslim. I have no idea why I didn’t know this before. But honestly, there really wasn’t anything that might have tipped me off to this. There’s no Arabic writing or Muslim decorations around the house. I have never seen my mom pray. It is entirely possible that I would miss this, because the first prayer would be early in the morning, possibly before I got up, some of them during the day, while I am at school. But I feel like there should be one in the evening too. Plus she’s never really mentioned anything about Islam. Also, I remember sharing a story from one of my first days, which involved a bottle of wine. Thinking about it now, I couldn’t swear that my mom was drinking, but I guess at that time I assumed that she was. Perhaps not. Or perhaps she just isn’t that devout of a Muslim. Also, I know for sure that my sister drinks, but I am not aware of whether she will be fasting for Ramadan or not. Although it seemed in Senegal (though this may be more due to the high percentage of Muslims in Senegal), even those who weren’t very devout as Muslims, still fasted for Ramadan.

Furthermore, I still stand by my assessment that the family of my Maman is Christian. I mean, I did go to a confirmation of one of my cousins. And from some of the conversations, I got that vibe. Plus I think my cousin is Christian; it is only my Maman and brother who are fasting. So this would mean that my Maman probably converted to Islam, quite possibly due to her love for her husband. Which again, doesn’t make sense, because in my experience, I’ve found that people who have converted to a religion to be a lot more faithful in upholding its tenants then sometimes those who were simply born into it. If you make the conscious decision to convert or adopt a religion, then wouldn’t it follow that you would be more inclined to want to actually live it every day then someone who just happens to have parents of that religion, but may not really believe or care?

Anyway, so now I have tons more questions, but it’s not like I can really ask them. For example, “So I got the vibe from your family that they are Christian, but you are fasting for Ramadan. So did you convert because you fell in love with a Muslim? And by the way, are you one of five wives (or less)?” Yes, that’s not awkward at all.

I don’t mind living in a Muslim household, obviously. However, Ramadan is kind of a downer, since it’s basically a restrictment of eating during the daytime and fun all the time. Not like I’ve been doing much in the way of going out, etc. But this means that there is less of a chance of attending any celebrations, etc. Then again, if my mom’s family is Christian, maybe there are still events that will go on. However, for two weeks of Ramadan, I will be away from Porto Novo and it looks like I will return just in time for Korité, the end of Ramadan (that, of course, depends on the moon!). So I am glad I will be able to celebrate that with my family, which will be fun!

Okay, so that was my confusion of the day.

Now: a quick story about the continual hilarious-ness of my professor. He usually lives in Cotonou, but is currently just renting a house from a friend of his in Porto Novo. Anyway, there are chickens that live in this yard (Sidenote: one of them is missing one of his feet and part of his leg, so it limps around the yard on a little stub, which is such a bizarre thing to see). Today, one of the chickens had come up to the porch, and was looking into the door of my professor. So I said, “André! The chicken will go into your house!” My professor just looks over and goes, “It’s okay. I will hit him. I will eat him.” The chicken chose this exact moment to turn and run away, back out into the yard. The other student and I lost it at this point. We couldn’t stop laughing. And laughing. My prof just has this smile he always does, like an ornery boy. I think he was kind of thinking something like, “Okay, it wasn’t that funny,” but he was also definitely happy we were laughing at his joke.

Sunday, 22 July 2012


So Sasha confirmed most of my assumptions. Yes, Maman converted to Islam because she married a Muslim. But she just isn’t that devout of a practitioner. And yes, my “papa” has mulitiple wives. I’m not sure how many. I remember when my “Papa” drove up, my Maman was so happy, I think to see him, and also to show him off to me, etc. I am really curious about this whole situation. Was my Maman his first wife? Am I wrong to assume that he’s living with a younger wife now? How okay is Maman with this whole set-up? I kind of felt bad for my Maman, because she exuded such excitement and love when he was here, but he didn’t stick around. I think if I were, for some reason, involved in a polygamous relationship, I would want to be the one he lived with, the one he always came back to. But I guess that is the opposite of the whole point of polygamy; that the man doesn’t have to belong to anyone woman; he can flit among them. He clearly provides for his wife and kids; I just don’t think my Maman is getting the proper amount of love. But then again, I know very little about the whole relationship, having only been exposed to it for a total of perhaps 2 minutes. I’m sure there exists far more layers. I am kind of reminded about Song Long A Letter, which is a Senegalese novel. It talks about two Senegalese female friends, who married Muslim men, but with the promise that the men would not marry a second wife. Both men ultimately break this promise, but the women react differently. One just up and leaves, while the other one stays married to her husband. The book is somewhat a metaphor for the broken promises of the new (at that time) generation of African politicians, but it also just explores the dynamics of marriage and polygamy.

Anyway, moving on with my activities here. Saturday I had a Language Proficiency Interview. Each person is required to reach the level of Intermediate-High in order to swear-in to the Peace Corps. I was already at this level when I came here, but I am interested to see how I have progressed. I actually kind of feel like I am at a plateau right now. I already know all the grammar rules, but it’s hard to just put them into play without considerable thought. My class involves a lot of review and repetition of these rules plus just general conversation, which is helpful. I know, I really shouldn’t be complaining, because there are plenty of people here who are just beginning in French, and probably can’t communicate anywhere near the level that I can. And I really do admire their ability to function in Benin. But still. I feel frustrated that I don’t feel like I’ve made a significant improvement. But this happens with every language-learning experience: there will be plateaus, then hopefully I will come to a time where my skills increase exponentially for a bit.

Also, we went to historical museum in the afternoon. As a former history major, I found it absolutely fascinating. It was basically just the palace of the kind of Porto-Novo. One kid mentioned to me that it was “a joke” but I reminded him that oftentimes, African countries don’t have much in the way of preserved history. Before the arrival of the Europeans, all history was oral, so there weren’t many written records. Senegal is lucky to have Muslim royal courts, which meant that history began to be written down, and there was some written communication, especially as the Europeans became more frequent. Also, France was far more interested in Senegal than many of its other West African countries. There has been a lot written about Senegal, and there was a lot more French involvement, and so on. When I was researching Benin, it was hard to find anything predating Europeans. Even Dahomey was a kingdom that grew up largely as a result of the slave trade, so it is somewhat recent as well. I would be really interested to see if there were any resources to learn about pre-Europoean-involvement history in Benin.

Anyway, we walked around the palace, and our guide told us about it in French. The other student in my class and I tended to translate what was said for the rest of the volunteers who may not understand perfectly. Overall, we learned that the king tended to have many wives and servants, all of who could be beheaded at any moment, for any infraction. There was a lot of evidence of voodoo beliefs. One was just a cabinet having various gris-gris items. Gris-gris is a French word for a charm or amulet, and is something I encountered in Senegal. Senegalese don’t practice voodoo, per se, but there are animist beliefs present there. So someone (even a Muslim or Christian) might where a “gris-gris” around their neck to protect from spirits. Here the word “gris-gris” was also used just for various ingredients that went into voodoo practices. I’m not sure if this was an incorrect use of the word, or if “gris-gris” has a different meaning in Benin. We learned that in one of the ceremonies for the ancestors, only two types of women were allowed to lead this: virgins and women who had already gone through menopause. The reasoning was that both of these women are “pure”. However, this seems a little shaky. There was something about how periods and sex interfere with your ability to perform religious ceremonies. But to my knowledge, virgins still can have periods, and women who have gone through menopause can still have sex. (Probably even more so, since they don’t have to worry about the inconvenience of getting preggars.) But I digress.

There was also a divining apparatus, which supposedly determines whether food has been poisoned. If it gave the signal indicating poison, the kitchen staff would be immediately beheaded. Also, there was a chain lying across one of the openings in the palace. In theory, if one of the king’s wives had been going out with another man, when she walked across this, she would immediately begin bleeding. Then the king would know of her infidelity and behead her as well. While being a queen could be good, especially if you were close to the king and could make requests, but it seemed very much filled with peril, with the possibility of beheading at any moment. Oh, and also when the king died, some of his wives were buried with him. Alive. Yikes!

One of the more amusing-but-precarious tidbits, was that the king would sometimes play games with others. But the rule was that the king always won. If you won, the king could do you a favor and behead you right then, or put you in prison—possibly have you do hard labor—for two weeks, let you think about what you’ve done, and THEN kill you.

We found it odd that many of the door were quite small. We had to dip to go through them. This, however, was explained to us as being on purpose. There were two sets of doors. Large, or rather normal-sized doors for the king. Then the smaller doors for everyone else, which would require you to bow in reverence to him.

For another random cultural thing, I shall tell you the story of the canon. There was a canon that was just sitting in the middle of the kitchen area.

So we volunteers asked: “Why is there a canon here?”
Guide: “The French gave it to the king, for battle.”
Volunteers: “Okay, but why is it in the kitchen?”
Guide: “It’s really heavy. We don’t feel like moving it.”

C’est Ça, l’Afrique.

Saturday was a busy day. After the museum, we were split up in to groups, to go to someone’s house and learn how to cook with Beninese ingredients. I was really excited for this, and was not at all disappointed. First of all, I watched the Maman of the house gut fish (a crucial thing to know, btw). It was kind of gross, but obviously necessary. In Benin, fish don’t normally come in boneless filets. This, has unfortunately led to me swallowing a few too many fish bones, but I just haven’t mastered the art of picking out all the bones. But I am getting better! Anyway, we also made “pate rouge,” which is a pretty typical Beninese dish. “Pate” is a grain product that has a consistency of somewhere between pudding and bread. It “pate blanc” is made from corn-flour, and is pretty much tasteless. “Pate rouge” is basically pate blanc with tomato paste, and possibly tomatoes, onions, or even other veggies added in. It is pretty good. “Pate noir” is the best, but of course more expensive. It is made from the flour of yams (or sometimes even plantains, etc). Another Beninese food is a type of fried “cheese” although I don’t actually believe that its cheese. It’s supposedly made here, and always, always fried. To me, however, it tastes like and has the texture of rubber. If I want cheese I will eat “La vache qui rit” (aka The Laughing Cow) every day. (Thank you, France, for spreading this delicious cheese around the world. Thank you also for spreading baguettes around the world, especially since your former colonies actually tend to make baguettes better than you yourself do.)

My favorite thing that we made, however, was “sauce legume”, which literally means “vegetable sauce”. Specifically in Benin, it means a sauce made with bitterroot leaves (I think. I’m not the greatest at identifying plants, the first time I ate sauce legume, I thought it was spinach, but this was clearly wrong. The sauce is made with ground-up sesame leaves, then there are various seasoning added. This host maman used a blend of garlic/pepper/ginger for a lot of the dishes. For the sauce legume, she also added hot peppers, bouillon, and of course salt.

The fish were covered in the garlic/pepper/ginger sauce, then deep fried. Then the “cheese” was fried. Then we were ready to eat. Everything was so delicious! (minus the “cheese”, because I didn’t even bother with it). Although I think my mouth hates all of the hot things I am eating here. I have been trying to prep for this since even before I went to Senegal, by putting Sriracha sauce on pretty much everything I eat in the US. However, I keep getting ulcers here. But I eat through the pain. In my kitchen, there are just tons and tons of little tiny green peppers. My maman will put these in everything that she cooks, or grind them up into a hot sauce. So good!

I don’t know if I will be able to replicate this at all. The cooking, even of the pate, went along the way of “a handful here, a pinch there.” However, the Peace Corps has provided us with a nice cookbook, to which I can refer. But now at least I’ve seen different things actually be prepared, so I know what they should look like when I’m doing it.

Today, Sunday, I went to the pool in Cotonou with my host cousin, Sasha. It was kind of haphazard getting there. The “taxis” which are basically old 15-passenger-vans, start at a stop not far from my house, then continue down the road, honking at people, then stopping for everyone that hails them. Two guys are hanging out of the van, one on the side, and one at the back. Then are just yelling at people, yelling to each other; it’s chaos. At one point, I’m pretty sure they got in a fight with some other people. I think it was a fight over turf. Possibly, the other people in a fight were also taxi-drivers, who didn’t like them stopping for passengers right there, and physically tried to close the doors, and so on. Anyway, I didn’t really understand, obviously, this fight was in some local language. But it was kind of amusing.

Along the way to Cotonou, we were stopped at a roadblock. And even though our driver presented the police with proper documentation (I assume), he still had to bribe them. With 500cfa, which is equivalent to about $1. In some ways, I wish this could happen in the US, i.e. “How fast was I going? Well, officer, George Washington here says I definitely wasn’t speeding, and he never told a lie.” Ultimately, however, its annoying that the police tend to abuse their power to extort money from motorists, no matter how small the amount is (at least to me).

It was overcast, so it wasn’t ideal pool-weather, but it was still really fun. We were in a somewhat upscale hotel, which charges the equivalent of $8/day to use the pool. There was a family there, two sisters (and the older one’s kid) and a younger brother. Sasha knows them, he says he met them over some sort of Blackberry-meet-up app, which I didn’t realize as even a thing in Benin. I swam some laps. Then I started doing hand-stands, which the younger brother tried to imitate. I also raced against this brother (and won). Mostly I just floated around or swam underwater.

Up a flight of stairs from the pool, there was a terrace that overlooked the river or part of the lake, which ran into the ocean. I could see the beach from there. Although, the beaches in Cotonou are not a safe place to be, nor is the ocean there a safe place to swim. So I will have to be content simply with that view. I was standing there, in my bathing suit, towel around my waist, when I suddenly realized that there were guys in pirogues on the water. I had seen them there, but I didn’t think about how inappropriate I was, standing there in a bikini. Sometimes it’s easy to be in those hotels and forget that Africa exists right outside the walls. I suppose this would be true for closed ex-pat communities, etc, which I am told exist here as well.

For lunch, we ordered from the hotel. It was crazy expensive. But that I mean the cheapest things was $4. This is ridiculous, compared to the typical 40-cent meal I get on the streets of Porto Novo. I tried just to get a sandwich ($4), but the Sasha’s friend, was like, “No, why don’t you try this one,” and ordered something that actually cost $12. I kind of apologized to Sasha later, because he was the one that paid (In Benin, the rule is that if you are the one that invites someone to eat out or for drinks, you are the one that pays). He said tthat when I am with him, I shouldn’t look at the prices, just order what I want, but I told him that I was just that kind of person. He called it “une personne econome” which sounds better than “cheap”, haha! But the meal was well worth-it. I got a nice fish filet, WITH NO BONES, and a delicious alfredo-esque sauce with mushrooms. Delicious. What a luxurious day.

On the way back, we took an actual car as our taxi, which is apparently faster, but more expensive. It was kind of terrifying, because the shoved two people in the front seat. One person just had to sit kind of on the console, but of course out of the way of the stickshift. Oh, and the dash on the front, behind the steering wheel didn’t actually work at all. How fast are we going? Who knows? Are we overheating? I don’t believe so. Are we out of gas? Hopefully not. C’est Ça, l’Afrique.

Anyway, this made me think of a subject that came up not in my class, but in the class of friends of mine last semester. It was if it was okay to pay poorer countries to send our trash there. To the minds of people thinking straight business, this seems brilliant. We get the trash out of our country, and poorer countries get to make money simply by existing. But for those of us liberal hippies that were my friends, this sounds like a horrible idea. Okay, let’s ignore the problem that we have with throwing away way too much, without thinking about the real consequences. Let’s just pollute the earth of a desperate country. Yes, that sounds humanitarian and sustainable all around. But I think in class the other day, my teacher was saying that while this practice is generally rejected outright (though still happens), in reality it happens all the time. Africa (and other developing regions) receive many of our old things as “donations”. For example, France sends a bunch of its old Peugots to the people of Benin. Then when it breaks down completely after a year or so, it ends up becoming the trash in Benin anyway. It’s not like the Beninese get to ship it BACK to France. Anyway, just and interesting perspective.

Friday, July 20, 2012

Please Excuse My Thighs


Tuesday, 17 July 2012


I would like to repeat how much I love my French teacher. He just does bizarre things, always with a smile, and it always enhances my day. He constantly feeds the other student and I. I guess he wants us to experience Beninese food. And its not like things are that expensive. Usually about 20 cents for little snacks like a coconut, Fan milk (basically frozen vanilla-flavored milk that people keep in coolers-on-wheels and walk around neighborhoods selling while blowing little hand-held-horns), a fried-dough-thing, a pineapple, or bananas, and so on. Be also hacked into wi-fi near his house, so now when we have class there we can use the (very slow) connection. And the other student and I decided that we should read the news in the morning, and talk about it in French. He also made us lunch the other day, which was awesome. He is a good teacher, and develops good, solid grammar lessons. Then sometimes we just talk in French and build our vocabulary. Our professor is curious about the goings-on in the States. He constantly asks about things that he’s heard in American-related news, i.e. “So there is that guy Romney. Tell me about Mormonism, what is that?” or “So I heard someone say that the health-insurance reform is socialism. Do you think that is true?” (NO!) Then sometimes his questions are completely random. For example, we were practicing the conditional tense, which is when you say “I would…” So he was asking us questions like, “If you had a million dollars…” One of the questions though, probably pulled from an old textbook, was as follows:  “You are a cowboy. And you come across some “red-skins” (literally, the word was ‘peaus rouges’). All you have is your Winchester and your horse. What do you do?” The other student and I just laughed so much. It was such a random question.

Otherwise, I continue the adaption to Beninese way of life, trying to figure out a system for life over the next few years. Showering, for example, is something I need to work out. Even in the states, where there is hot water aplenty, I hate showers. They are annoying and a waste of time. Sometimes it takes me so much effort to convince myself that they’re really necessary, especially in the morning when I want to sleep, etc. This is even harder in Benin, because of course my showers are all cold bucket showers. So my current strategy is to work out in my room as soon as I get home (I brought some workout-cds burned onto my computer). I am already hot and sweaty from biking home, so it’s a perfect time to work out. Plus when I am all hot from exercising, the cold shower feels refreshing rather than miserable. Although sometimes I really don’t feel like working out after a long day. I don’t think this is ever something I will truly get used to.

Also, another issue I am encountering is the problem in the combination of dresses, bicycles, and a culture that demands you not show your thighs. Currently in Porto Novo, there are white ladies everywhere flashing their sexy legs helter-skelter around the city as we try to get around on our bikes. I don’t know how to solve this. This is something that I at least have some practice with; as I happen to really enjoy wearing skirts/dresses and I biked a lot to and from classes. In fact, skirts and bikes are a really common combination in Charleston, that’s just the way things are. In the States, I mostly dealt with the whole I-might-be-flashing-people issue by not actually caring. Also wearing tighter skirts that didn’t always blow everywhere. Plus showing your thighs aren’t really a problem, I was just worried about my skirt riding/blowing up and revealing everything. But here, just showing thighs is a cultural faux pas. Although I feel like people do understand that you’re not trying to be provocative; you just want to get where you are going. On the other hand, repeatedly flashing parts that are supposed to be covered just isn’t a good thing, regardless of the situation.

So what to do? I have this image of 50s-era girls, wearing poodle skirt, biking to their hearts content, and not flashing anyone. Did that work? Is that just in the movies? Was there something special about 50s skirts that made them bike-friendly? I don’t get it. My impromptu solution was tying a string on the middle pole of my bike, then taking a binder clip to fasten the middle part of my skirt. This worked for a little bit, until the binder clip came loose. Is there something else that exists that would grip my skirt better? If you know this item, can you let me know? Or better yet, send it to me?? thanks… Gah, anyway, that is my biggest problem right now. At least I have some more time to master the art of riding a bike with a skirt. I’ll let you know how I progress.

In other news, I’m learning more every day about survival in Benin. I think it is very good that they are training us to be independent (this is obviously necessary). For example, I believe I was talking the other day about the lesson on repairing flat bike tires and other bike upkeep. We also have learned how to clean our veggies and fruits (they have to be bleached in order to kill all the bacteria/viruses that may be on them). Soon we will have a class on cooking using ingredients found in Benin. I know that I still have a lot to learn. On the other hand, however, I am really excited for life on my own. I love my family, and I enjoy having my meals cooked for me. On the other hand, I also enjoy my independence. I enjoy being able to cook exactly what I want. To eat precisely when I want. I am also looking forward to being able to do things in the privacy of my own house, without having to worry about whether my family is watching/judging. For example, I want to be able to go to the shower after exercising in my room without having to worried if I’m covered up enough (which I’m not, as I’m only wearing shorts and a sports bra). Furthermore, since it’s considered really inappropriate to give your undergarments to who ever is washing your clothes (because its all hand-washing, that would be foul), I usually just wash them in the shower. So it’s this obnoxious long process for the shower, then I have to hang my ‘delicates’ up in secret in my room. I long for the day when I can walk around my own house in whatever I want, wash and hang my clothes anywhere, and so on. I also hate having to ask my family to turn on the water, so I can boil some for my filter. Furthermore, when I am on my own I can “treat” myself every once in a while to a HOT [bucket] shower!!! (Oh what bliss!). Also, I want to be able to fix my bike, etc with out my host cousin laughing at me. The other day we got a headlamp from the Peace Corps (which btw is one of the greatest things ever. Especially when you have low lighting in your room and want to read or study, etc. Anyway, so I have this headlamp on, am working on affixing the new lights we just got for our bikes onto my bike. My host cousin walks in my room, sees me, then just starts laughing. He’s laughing so much that he can’t talk, and just walks back down the hall. I hear him laughing the whole way. Whatever. I’m just trying to get my bike a-working, even if it does make me look like a weird yovo.

I just want to be able to do things on my own, at my own pace, and in my own time. Probably once I have this freedom, I’ll be thinking, “Oh wouldn’t it be nice if someone would just cook dinner for me!” But then again, I can probably go out and get a dinner for 30 cents if I wanted. So this training period is a necessary process, which is good in many ways, but I really do long for freedom.

Thursday, 19 July 2012


So I finally met my “papa” that I’ve heard a little about. I was just in my room, and my Maman called me outside. And in this nice car, with tinted windows sits a man in a white boubou. My Maman says, “This is your papa.” Then he proceeds to ask me questions like where I’m from, how long I’m going to be in Benin, etc. He talked about how he knows Maryland, he’s been to Washington DC, to Atlanta, to Philadelphia, and so on, basically naming every major city on the East Coast. I think he mentioned something about how he was going to Philadelphia to buy a car. Then he said something like, “ This is my wife. This is my house. You are living in my house. I have lots of houses.” And apparently he typically lives in a house in Cotonou, which is closer to his work. Then he just says goodbye and drives off in his nice car. This is by far the weirdest experience I’ve had so far. And really all it did was answer absolutely NO questions, and create so many more. Not that I can ask them. Like, “So are you involved in a polygamous family?” That is what I really want to know. When papa says, “I have lots of houses,” does that mean he has lots of wives too? Or maybe he just travels a lot for work. Also, what is this work that he does? How is he balling out with his car (and possibly loads of wives)? I really want to know. But again, how do you ask that? Am I jumping to conclusions just because its Africa and of course everyone has multiple wives (obviously not true, but sometimes it’s a sterotype). WHY DOES NO ONE EXPLAIN ANYTHING TO ME?????

Moving on, tonight I played cards with a little boy, who I think is my neighbor or something. Or something about he belongs to the woman he is doing my Maman’s hair? Anyway, communication is clearly not the strong point in the relationship I have with my host family. I have no idea what’s going on. Anyways, the boy is absolutely adorable, I briefly considered kidnapping him (joke). Sidenote, he was here when I first got home, and my host mom joked, “Here is my husband!” Apparently that’s a common joke, “Haha, this young child is my husband/wife.” I guess that kind of happens in America, you can say, “Yeah he’s my [little] man,” kind of conveying that same idea. But regardless, I didn’t get the joke, and once you don’t get a joke, and it has to be repeated/explained, and then it’s no longer funny. It’s kind of like sometimes someone here will ask me, “You’ve returned?” Then my response is, “No, I haven’t returned” (sarcasm, because, duh I’m standing right here, implying that I have indeed returned). Then they just get really confused, and think that maybe I just didn’t understand what they were saying. Jokes just simply don’t translate, rather it’s across languages and/or cultures.

Anyway, first we played “war”, which is the most boring game ever, but at least it is really simple, and doesn’t take much explaining. I wasn’t sure if the boy understood numbers. He knows how to write numbers, as I discovered later, but I don’t know about knowing which ones are higher/lower. At what age do you learn that? I don’t know. So we played that for a while, then drew pictures for a bit, then went back to cards. This time we played his game. Let me just tell you that its really hard to play a card game when you have no idea what the rules are or what the object is. The little boy seemed kind of shy. I’m not sure how much French he speaks, although he seemed to understand what I was saying. But I kept asking, “what should I do now?” and he wouldn’t say anything. So in the end, it just ended up with me putting down cards haphazardly and him telling me what happened with them. I still don’t understand it. Oh well.

And for your entertainment, here is a poster for some "Obama Beer". Yes it's a real thing. I can really drink an Obama. Si se puede!!!